Today at church, a young man got up and said, “Life is hard. I hate to break it to you, but it is.” He’s right. Life is life. It’s not meant to be a cake walk. He went on to give a beautiful testimony of his faith, but I want to focus on that part today.
We are here to learn and grow in our own individual ways. Because of that, we have our own individual trials. Nobody will have the exact same walk of life. There are trials that come in all shapes and sizes. Trials that can affect you physically, mentally, spiritually, and whatever else.
The reason I’m bringing this up is to not depress you, but to admit that even the cosmetically glamorous and intriguing lifestyle of traveling the world still has its trials. People like to assume that just because I’m living my dream of traveling the world that my life is always happy go lucky. My life is not always rainbows and butterflies as I travel the world with my unbelievably perfect family (I guess some things in life are perfect and my family is one of them). Our trials may be a little different at times, sure, but trials nonetheless.
Believe it or not, I still argue with my husband and I still have moments of shame as a mother. We are spending all day every day together. You can imagine how that can be both challenging and rewarding. People naturally get sick of each other and we are learning how to deal with it. My kids fight more than any other sibling group I know, BUT they also spend way too much time together. They hardly ever get a break from each other and it’s really hard, even for adults!
While most parents battle with their children to get them off to school, we battle with our children to go exploring another castle. (haha Yes, I know, who in their right minds would complain about visiting a castle?!) Well, according to them, after you’ve seen one, you’ve seen them all. They’re not always excited to explore a new area, so we have to come up with ways to make it fun for them. This also brings a great opportunity to teach them about compromise.
Brandon and I also struggle with not hovering every decision our kids are faced with. Since we are always there, it’s easy to step in and steer them in the right direction, but then when are they to learn to make decisions for themselves? It’s hard to sit back and bite your tongue, especially when they’re having a disagreement.
As my kids’ teacher, I constantly find myself feeling inadequate. My biggest mistake is comparing my kids to other kids. (Why do mothers do this?! It’s ridiculous.) I start dwelling on the things they are NOT learning instead of focusing on what they ARE learning. Going down this slippery slope can get depressing and takes me a while to climb my way out of that mindset.
We struggle with all the moving around. It can get exhausting, annoying, and frustrating. Sometimes I’ll daydream about being settled in a house again with our daily routine, but then I have to remind myself that we aren’t going to travel forever and I’m sure I will miss these times. So, I’m learning to soak in the moments when I feel like sticking my tongue out and pouting in the corner. haha
Anyway, these are my thoughts today. I shared some of my trials with you to show examples, but I assure you that I have a lot more. Some that are too personal to share, just like you have yours. And, that’s okay. We’re all in this thing called “life” together. No matter how you’re living your life, you’ll have trials. Without trials, you can’t grow, right? Or so I’m told…I’ll let you know when I grow into a beautiful butterfly. 😜